I really took some time into thinking whether I should write this article or not. I realize its really putting myself out there, and this is something I've never been comfortable talking about. And what guy would be?
Sexual impotence is by far the most embarrassing condition any guy could have. Nothing gives a guy more anxiety, stress, and even depression then not being able to connect with their mate sexually because "it does not work".
But I decided to bite the bullet and put myself out there, because this is something that I suffered with for years, and was able to find a way to cure it forever. I know this is a major problem for millions of men; Most are too shy to talk about it.
That's okay, so was I.
I could never ask my friends back in the day for advice on this, because they're probably just make jokes. So I just kept quiet and deal with it until I found a way to fix it, because it is by no means a permanent condition.
If by coming out and sharing this experience can help someone, then I have an obligation to do it.
What is Sexual Impotence?
Sexual impotence is when a guy can not achieve and / or sustain an erection. It's also when a guy can not have sex for more than 5 seconds without having an orgasm.
Of course it is, but this is a problem for literally millions of men. You're not alone, so unless you have some serious issues down there, be relieved that the cure is not too complicated. Most of the time it can be fixed with just a few simple changes in your lifestyle.
What Causes Sexual Impotence?
First off, I am not a doctor, so I can not give any expert medical advice. I'm just a regular everyday guy. However, I can refer to anyone who's going through this, and can share how I overcame it. I never went to any doctor, this was something I had to find myself.
There are two types of sexual impotence. Physical and psychological.
The physical aspect is usually caused by:
• Being Overweight
• Smoking (Tobacco or Marijuana)
• Poor Exercise
All of these impair the bodies ability to sustain sexual intervention. Sex requires a lot of physical energy and takes a toll on the body. If you're not taking care of it, its abilities to do things like sexual intercourse is very limited.
For me, it was marijuana and alcohol. I had to give both of those up before the problem could be solved forever.
And you know what? I am so much happier without those. Years ago I used to think those substances enhanced my sexual experience and made it more fun. I could not have been more wrong! Those actually completed my senses. Not just physical senses, but the spiritual senses as well.
Sex is a deeply spiritual act. And those substances blinded me to that. You'll know what I mean if you're in the same situation and you eliminate them from your life.
If your problem is poor diet or being overweight. Here's an article with some advice on how to eat healthier and what ingredients to watch out for.
The psychological aspects are a bit more complicated because it can be more difficult in finding the source. You can be the most physically fit guy on Earth, yet still be sexually impotent. If this is the case, you're more than likely suffering from something psychological. Do not worry, it is not permanent. With some lifestyle changes you can solve most of these issues.
A few examples of psychological causes are:
• Stress and Anxiety
• Fear of Intimacy
• Being hurt in the past
• Addiction to Porn and Masturbation
This is a bit trickier because men put a lot of pressure on themselves to perform well in bed. Or should I say, society puts a lot of pressure on men.
The same goes for women. Society puts a lot of pressure on women to look like the women in magazines and movies. You're not beautiful if you do not look like the latest Victoria's Secret model. Bull-shit.
If we let media and society get into our heads and believe what they're saying, it can make us feel anxious, self-conscious, and afraid. This can easily lead to psychological sexual impotence. The key is to find the root cause of what's affecting you, and heal from it. I know this can be difficult, especially at first.
The one I really want to focus on is porn and masturbation. This without a doubt, is the root cause of sexual impotence in men; And is also the most common.
Let me explain.
Think of the human brain like a computer. Everything you do in life wires your brain to do and react to specific things. So if you're doing something repeatedly over and over again, your brain is going to re-wire itself for that.
It's like someone who's trying to learn a musical instrument such as guitar. At first they suck and have no idea what they're doing. But if they stick with it and practice every day, soon enough the brain re-wires itself to know how to land each finger on each string quickly without even thinking about it.
It's the same concept with porn and masturbation.
If a guy is participating in this regularly. He is re-wiring his brain to only be aroused through self-stimulation and visual images. So when he gets with his wife or girlfriend, his brain is not programmed to get aroused by another real person, and is impotent.
Frequent masturbation over time also leads to the tissue in that area to callus. This makes it less sensitive and dull, leading to not being able to get an inspection without some serious stimulation. Like the finger tips of a guitar player. Overtime he can not feel the steel strings pressing into his fingertips anymore because they've callused.
Another serious sexual issue for many men. There is no magic-pill for this. I think most men, even if they do not suffer from this now, did at one point in their lives. If you're currently struggling with this, be aware that this is not a permanent thing if you do not want it to be. With practice you can learn to go as long as you want. You can learn to control it.
The answer is so simple that men make it difficult.
Breathing and Self-Control
I read a quote once that said "He who controls his breath, controls the universe", and that is absolutely true. This can be difficult because during the act you're not likely thinking about much else right? The problem is not being calm and relaxed. Breathing enhances self-control and relaxes you. Taking deep, controlled breaths, not panting, just slow, deep breaths will greatly calm you and enhance your longevity. Also, making sure to not cross the point of no return until you're ready. Remaining focused, relaxed, and breathing deep will keep you in control. When you feel the point of no return coming on, stop for a few seconds and take some breaths before continuing, it will stay. After some practice this will become second nature to you.
Overcoming sexual impotence is something that takes some discipline. It's not something that happens overnight as you need to give your brain some time to re-wire out of the old habits and addictions which are causing it. The key is finding what's causing it for you and taking immediate action into reversing it. If you want a quick, temporary fix, go to a doctor's office and get some Viagra. You can get a hard-on, but some side effects are involved. Know that those pills do not do anything to solve the problem. They only sweep it under the rug and making it worse in the long run. There's no magic-pill, but if I had to suggest a natural, healthy remedy to help strengthen libido. Which works very well by the way. It would be Maca Root.
I hope this is clear and helpful. If you have any questions, comments, or if I've missed anything. Please feel free to use the comment box below. Thank you!