The digital technology of this century has dramatically changed the way we live on this planet. Millions of singles have abandoned the traditional way of looking for their potential girlfriends or boyfriends, husbands or wives. In the modern world, among other means, the Internet has been the vehicle of choice for countless single men and women. Some studies suggest that many men are petrified by the idea of striking up a conversation face to face with women they have never met. Women's presence, in a party or social function, intimidates these men.
Why does a woman's Presence intimidate some men?
Some of the reasons why a woman's presence intimidates some men are that these men may suffer from fear of rejection by women. Some women may have rejected them in the past. They may have suffered from low self-esteem, particularly self-confidence. Because of these unfortunate shortcomings, these men have become too self-conscious. They feel that their words, phrases, or sentences would be lacking in substance to make any women pay attention to them. Because of the level of insecure they experience, they do not even have a chance to make a first good impression. Since they do not want to look like fools, so they keep to themselves.
Online Contact to the Rescue
None of the above difficulties is present in online contact with women, thanks to the Internet technology. It is so much easier for these men to follow their dreams by getting some female pen pals and communicate with them, wherey no face-to-face contact is required. With a few easy steps, these men should be able to establish their online communication with some female pen pals and move up, hopefully, to the next step in the dating game.
Step 1. Sign up for an online dating site's paid membership.
Step 2.Get as many pen pals' profiles as you need. Read them carefully. See if they fit your needs and personality.
Step 3. Compose your first email to each one of them. Make sure that you do not use the same email content for all of them as if one size fits all. In your email, reply according to the content of each pen pal's profile you received.
Do not say things like, "I think I am falling in love with you," "I can not wait to see you one-on-one," "I was dreaming of meeting you," "You are an angel." It would be ridiculous to use these phrases at this early stage because you have not known each other at all. Some single men have made these mistakes; You do not have to. By using these words, you would project the image of a desperate, an overanxious, and an unstable man par excellence. Just say something like, "It is a pleasure meeting you online." Describe your hobbies.
Do not give her too much detail about you or your family. In short, do not show your pen pal that you are a very needy man, or you might not get a favorable reply from her. In your email, she should perceive you as a well-grouped, poised, confident, and organized person. Exchange several emails and photos with her to see if both of you click before proceeding to contact each other via the telephone. You should not be the one to ask her for her phone number. You should have received her number along with her profile from the online dating site. If not, she should be the one to give it to you.
How to Handle a Phone Call to Your Newly Acquainted Pen Pal
You are the one to initiate the call. This should not be painful at all because you had already broken the ice through several pieces of email and photo exchange. All you have to do is review her emails and the ones that you sent her. Now you have a lot of information available to you, allowing you to talk to her over the phone without any fear.
Prior to the phone call, make sure that they are poised and collected, and in good humor.
You may say something like, "Hi Emmy!" Wait for her response.
"This is Peter Pan." Wait for her reply.
"How are you today?" Let her respond.
Now tell her the reason or reasons for your call. You should spend around 10 minutes or more, but no more than 30 minutes on the phone with her the first time you call. There would be times when 1 hour or more on the phone with her would seem too little time to chat. For now, you do not have to push it.
By your demeanor, show her that you are in control, poised and confident. She might appreciate it.
I have been through that road many times; Therefore I know how it is. It might be a bit different for every individual, but what counts is to reach one's goals and destination successfully.
Written on June 20, 2011